We are a product of how we think and talk. I know, I know, don’t give me all that psycho babble you’re probably saying.
Two sources of reference for you. The Bible and an excerpt from Refocuser.com.
From the Bible:
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…
Death and life are in the power of the tongue
You can picture this yourself by imagining the flow of water through sand. When seawater first runs over the sand, there isn’t a path for it to follow so it starts to form one for itself. As the water continues to flow over the sand, the pathway forms a real groove in the sand and gets deeper and more defined. It may start to branch off and take up more room in the sand if necessary, even reforming pathways on top of pathways that are no longer in use if it needs to. Once the pathways are formed, it becomes more difficult to change the water flow – and if the water ever stops flowing, the pathway will remain for some time in the hopes that it’ll be used again at some point. (This is why picking something back up after some time of inactivity is easier than starting a new activity cold).
Bottom line is this: are you helping yourself or sabotaging yourself with how you think and how you talk?